We are at the final love language. We have already touched on the first four: quality time, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch. The last and final love language we have left to discuss is acts of service. This love language demonstrates love in a real physical way. It brings aid and help to others when they might need it the most. The Five Love Languages written by Gary Chapman is a book to help couples in whatever state their relationship might be in. For couples who maybe feel stuck in the mundane cycles of life. Or the couples who have hit rock bottom and have no idea on what to do next. For the couples who are constantly looking for ways to grow and learn more about each other.
Acts of Service
Time and money. Which of these two options do you value the most? Which would you choose to have if you could only choose one?
When it comes to the language of acts of service, it is very likely you probably value time. You value the time that someone gives you as well as the time you give. It is so easy to become busy in today’s world. It’s easy to not have time for anyone or anything else unless you are getting something in return from it. To just give your time freely to serve someone else just to show your love seems drastically opposite of what the world sees as “normal.” The normal behavior is to just give your time when you can get money in return or be liked in return. Or even just give your time just because its convenient for you. But what if you actually did an act of service for the person you love just because you know they will feel loved. Even when you think you don’t have enough time or it won’t be worth it, your “acts of service,” lover will be singing with joy.
Acts of service hearts might love being helped around the house. Just little things such as taking the trash out, mowing the low, or changing a diaper. They can also be running errands or grabbing a coffee for them while they are at work. The beauty is that we have a choice to show our love which makes it that more special. With that comes the freedom to love with our hands and feet just as Jesus showed his love to us with his hands and feet.
Final “Five Love Language” Thoughts
This book has been an encouragement for my own marriage because we have been given practical ways to show our love in ways that mean the most to us. I use to show love for my husband by showing him quality time and giving him a lot of my time because that is what I value the most. I ended up loving him the way I know how to love. I didn’t understand how my husband actually felt the most loved. Once I understood his top love languages, I was able to give him what he needed and what he really wanted. Not me. And vice versa. He now is able to love me in ways he wasn’t even aware of before. This small and subtle shift has helped us both not just say that we love each other, but actually feel loved. May this book encourage you and your relationship with the love of your life. May it bring hope and redemption all through the name of love.
Ask your spouse what they could use some help with today. After you are done asking, observe what they do around the house everyday or what they like for lunch or a snack. Once you take notice, maybe do one of those things for them when they least expect it or you can make it a once a week love chore for them.
AUTHOR OF THE MARRIAGE SERIES: Taylor Wild
Note: We do not hold degrees in psychology, nor are we doctors, but people who have a heart to share wisdom.